A poll reports that the ideal duration of sex should be between 10 and 25 minutes. However, the book The New Naked: The Ultimate Sex Education for Grown-Ups tells us that almost 50% of men would orgasm within less than 2 minutes into sex.
Some men deal with premature ejaculation by distracting themselves with math problems, football, and dead cats, but this strategy often leads to an unenjoyable sex.
Good thing, there are various ways men can last longer in bed naturally. Below, we list down all the tips, tricks, and medically-approved methods that you can execute right now in order to enjoy sex even more.
Penis exercises are routines that must be done regularly to make your pelvic muscles stronger. A strong pelvic floor muscle allows you to control your orgasms better. These exercises must be done correctly every day to achieve positive results.
Read our separate article on how to perform Kegels properly.
This is sometimes referred to as pelvic floor exercise. Kegels involve focusing on the three main muscles of the pelvic floor. Kegel is mainly helpful when you are at the point of no return and still don’t want to ejaculate.
Kegels can cause injury when not done properly so it is crucial to make sure you know which muscles to contract before performing this exercise.
Learn how to do Reverse Kegels.
This is very similar to Kegels in terms of which muscles to focus on while exercising. This exercise is commonly used throughout sex when you feel very heightened but want to get a few steps back in order to stay away from the point of no return.
Read our complete Edging guide.
A masturbation technique that trains you to be able to stimulate yourself to the “edge” and still be able to hold back orgasm multiple times within at least 20 minutes.
Visit this page to learn the ballooning technique.
Very similar to edging, except you are not allowed to ejaculate even at the end of the exercise. You must be able to hold your orgasm with the combination of Kegels and reverse Kegels until the next time you masturbate or have sex.
These are products that are made with numbing agents and local anesthetics like Benzocaine and Lidocaine to lessen the sensation on the penis while also allowing you to enjoy longer sex. These ingredients are generally safe when used properly.
Unlike pills, de-sensitizers can be used on-demand.
These usually come in portable bottles that you can carry in your pocket. Delay sprays can be the best form of de-sensitizer as they are designed to be absorbed quickly by the penile skin so they should dry completely after 10 minutes.
This product can be used by spraying directly on the penis head and shaft. The best sprays don’t transfer to the partner even without washing after the application.
Some popular delay sprays you might want to check out are:
Read our full review of Enlast Cream.
De-sensitizing creams work the same way as sprays. Simply apply the product directly onto the penis and it will slightly decrease your penile sensation.
Creams have been on the market for a long time now, so they are more preferred than other forms of de-sensitizers. They are commonly used under condoms to avoid transfer of the product to the partner as it can also cause numbing of the vagina.
There are gels that are labeled 100% absorption rate. These are the ones that can be absorbed by the skin completely leaving it dry in just a minute or two. It’s a fast-acting de-sensitizer that it is getting more popular.
These are water-based products that work within 5 minutes. Although it is called a lubricant, it doesn’t really lubricate anything as it should be absorbed by the skin or used under a condom to prevent from transferring to the partner.
Note that there are only a few brands that offer desensitizing lubricants for men and they are not a very popular option as an easy to use desensitizer.
Also labeled as climax-control condoms, these are specially designed with desensitizing lubricants in the inner part of the condoms to help delay ejaculation.
This type of desensitizer is quite risky as you cannot control the dosage of the numbing agent that is applied to your penis. It may be too much to make your penis go completely numb, or inadequate to be ineffective.
Thick condoms not only promote safe sex, they also decrease the sensation which results in delayed ejaculation.
Also known as anesthetic wipes, this type of desensitizing product was just introduced on the market in 2017. These wipes are portable as they are enclosed in individual packets similar to the size of a condom package.
Currently, there is only one brand of desensitizing wipes and it uses benzocaine as an active ingredient.
Unlike desensitizing products, pills that treat premature ejaculation must be taken every day in order to be effective.
Most over-the-counter pills that help with premature ejaculation are made with ingredients that increase the testosterone levels as this is one of the most effective ways to increase the stamina of men during sex. Some of these ingredients include Zinc and Tribulus Terrestris.
Here are our recommended male enhancement supplements that can help you last longer in bed:
Read this article where we show you a rundown of the best and worst male enhancement pills.
Sexual anxiety occurs when one thinks about failing during sex before even doing it. Some men tend to think they will disappoint their partners. In most cases, just having this thought is the first step to failure.
Feeling anxious about sex makes your brain think that you are nervous when having sex and as an automatic response, your brain will make a way to shorten the amount of time that you are anxious. This means making you ejaculate early.
The best way to go around this is to let your partner know your problem with premature ejaculation and that you want to solve this issue with their help. This way, you don’t have to worry in case you ejaculate earlier than you want.
Masturbation is perfectly healthy and promotes a better stamina in order to practice the technique of delaying your orgasm.
Longer foreplay increases pleasure and the duration of sex. In addition, you can let your partner go down on you first until you orgasm.
Alternatively, you can let your partner orgasm first by stimulating her orally so you don’t have to worry about finishing ahead of her.
Vanessa Marin, a Sex Therapist, advised trying different positions to last longer in bed. Shifting to new positions will give you time to cool down.
Use positions that are less sensitive to you. It would be better to skip the doggy style as it can be an easy position to thrust faster and deeper – which will speed up your orgasm.
While cooling down, it is ok to stop penetrating and use this time to tease your partner a bit. You can finger her or get down on her until you feel that you are far from orgasming.
This can be compared with teasing and foreplay. Penetrating completely will stimulate you to the max. To avoid this, try to go in a few inches at a time to make you last longer.
When you feel like you are about to orgasm, relax your mind and take slow and deep breaths. You can also grind inside of her from time to time instead of thrusting in and out.
This technique is very effective when trying to stop an orgasm and has similar objective as edging and ballooning.
Whenever you feel like you are about to ejaculate, stop for a moment and squeeze the area below the head of the penis. Use your forefinger and thumb to apply pressure where your urethra is. This is a tube that is located along the underside of the penis.
The squeeze will push some blood away from the penis which will instantly cool you down.
Weightlifting is a proven effective method that promotes the production of testosterone. Increased T-levels in men contributes to a healthy sexual health, which includes improved sexual stamina.
After doing all of these techniques, you may orgasm sooner than you want from time to time. It is important to realize that this is not a big deal and that you can always go another round.