, also known as lithrosexual, lithsexual, akiosexual, quoisexual or koi-sexual, is the sexual orientation of a person who experiences sexual attraction
to another person but does not want it to be reciprocated.
It is part of the sub-asexual identity spectrum which is more specific than just the asexual, allosexual or graysexual spectrum.
Meaning of the colors:
- Red – sensitivity, life, leadership, and community
- Orange – lithosexual
- Yellow – varied relationships, loyalty, honor
- White – sexuality
- Black – asexuality
Lithsexual, like other identities in the sub-asexual, asexual or sexual identity spectrum is defined by a person’s sexual attraction – the power of evoking sexual interest or liking for someone or something. It can also be defined as sexual desire toward someone.
Basic Sexual Identity Spectrum
- Allosexual or sexual
- Heterosexual – sexual attraction to a different sex or gender.
- Homosexual – sexual attraction to the same sex or gender.
- Bisexual or pansexual – sexual attraction to multiple sexes or gender.
- Graysexual – infrequent feeling of sexual attraction
- Asexual – lack of sexual attraction toward anyone.
- Autochorissexual – feels a disconnection between them and their sexual target
- Cupiosexual – lacks sexual attraction but desires a sexual relationship
- Demisexual – sexual attraction only after a strong emotional bond.
- Fraysexual – sexual attraction fades after meeting their target
- Lithosexual – feels sexual attraction but does not want it reciprocated.
- Placiosexual – enjoys performing sexual acts to others but has little or no desire to receive sexual acts.
- Reciprosexual – feels sexual attraction only after knowing someone is attracted to them.
It is different from romantic attraction – the power of evoking romantic interest or liking for someone or something. It often results in a desire for a romantic relationship.
Basic Romantic Identity Spectrum
- Aromantic – lack of romantic attraction toward anyone.
- Biromantic or panromantic – romantic attraction to multiple sexes or genders.
- Heteroromantic – romantic attraction to a different sex or gender.
- Homoromantic – romantic attraction to the same sex or gender.
- Grayromantic – rarely feels or has very weak romantic attraction
Biological sex is the objectively measurable organs, hormones, and chromosomes a person has. It is the female, male and the in-betweens.
Biological Sex Spectrum
- Female – vagina, ovaries, XX chromosomes, has predominant estrogen
- Male – penis, testes, XY chromosomes, has predominant testosterone
- Intersex – combination of male and female
Gender identity, on the other hand, is the perception of one’s own gender or how a person sees themselves. It’s who you think you are. A person can view themselves as a woman, man, neither, both, or a combination.
Basic Gender Identity Spectrum
- Woman – perceives they fit the societal description of a woman
- Man – perceives they fit the societal description of a man
- Genderqueer – perceives they are neither, both or a combination of the two traditional gender identities
Gender expression is the way a person intentionally or unintentionally demonstrates their gender through their behavior. It is interpreted by others perceiving the gender based on traditional gender roles.
Basic Gender Expression Spectrum
- Feminine – qualities or appearance traditionally associated with women
- Masculine – qualities or appearance traditionally associated with men
- Androgynous – qualities or appearance that fit neither or both women and men
- Bem, S. L. (1981). Gender schema theory: A cognitive account of sex typing. Psychological Review, 88, 354–364.
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